My husband is sharing intimate photographs of me with his pals

I was disturbed to discover a while ago that my husband had been secretly scanning "intimate" photographs of me, taken when we were both much younger and much more foolish. I now believe he is sharing these, and similar pictures of me, with one (perhaps more) of his pals. I am unsettled that I can no longer trust the person I married, and horrified to know (or, indeed, not know) who has viewed these images. I don't think violated is too strong a word. I cannot now attend any of the places where I know these people will be. What would others feel about this? • If you would like to respond to this week's problem, please post your comment below. When leaving a message on this page, please be sensitive to the fact that you are responding to a real person in the grip of a real-life dilemma, who wrote to Private Lives asking for help, and may well view your comments here. Please consider especially how your words or the tone of your message could be perceived by someone in this situation, and be aware that comments which appear to be disruptive or disrespectful to the individual concerned will not appear. If you would like fellow readers to respond to a dilemma of yours, send us an outline of the situation of around 150 words. For advice from Pamela Stephenson Connolly on sexual matters, send us a brief description of your concerns. All correspondence should reach us by Wednesday morning. Email: [email protected] (please don't send attachments).